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Wednesday, April 2, 2008
How do I let a guy know I am interested in him?
Here is a question i received Today: There is this guy that i am interested in but i have reservations about approaching him, how do I let him know that I am interested? from Anonymous
4 comments:
Anonymous
said...
I think if it was me I would want her to let me know cus as guy I find it difficult to tell when a woman is interested in you cus women are so funny
I believe that women need to get over the factor of rejection that is part of life don't ever think that we men find it easy . I would want that the women start to walking up to us guys and putting on some game so to speak the worst that you can hear is no . But on the other hand no guy is going to say no to a woman she just has to talk to the guy for a little and then she will know how far his interest go.
As a female myself, if a certain guy peaked my interest and I wanted him to know, I would suck it up and tell him. Rejection is a b*tch, but at least I tried.
This is a rather interesting question that involves many variables such as, is he aware that you exist, is there a power differential involved etc.
It is commonly thought that guys approach females that they are interested in, but what you will find is that the majority of guys don't do this. The guys who do approach tend to be the ones who have their "game" well polish and tuned. Guys react to the verbal and non verbal messages you send them. And some are better at deciphering these messages than others.
So lets assume that this guy is aware of your existence, and that you probably pass each other with little more than a nod or a smile. In an instance such as this you would probably have to make the first move. I am assuming that you have been interested in him for some time but the opportunity to express such interest never arose. You will have to create such an opportunity.
If you want this guy to know that you are interested in him, you can use a rather simple approach. The male species are simple creatures. Next time you see him just smile and ask him one of the following, based on how familiar you are with each other. [Hi, how is your day going?; Ask him for directions to somewhere, then position yourself to run into him again and start off a conversation based on the directions he gave you and what followed after; Tease him that he just passed you, a damsel in distress, and never offered to help you (your books fell or something, use your imagination);] The objective is to strike up a conversation with him and get him chatting. Based on his response to you striking up a conversation you should be able to tell if he is interested in you.
If he is someone that you regularly chat and interact with, chances are he might not be that interested, or probably not sure how to read you. In this scenario you will have to be bold, ask him out. If you are not the bold type try dropping hints like "I would love to go watch this movie, but all my friends are busy this weekend and have no one to take me" remember to drop in the "sigh" after that comment.If that doesn't work, your guy might simply be not interested. Good Luck Teddy
4 comments:
I think if it was me I would want her to let me know cus as guy I find it difficult to tell when a woman is interested in you cus women are so funny
I believe that women need to get over the factor of rejection that is part of life don't ever think that we men find it easy . I would want that the women start to walking up to us guys and putting on some game so to speak the worst that you can hear is no . But on the other hand no guy is going to say no to a woman she just has to talk to the guy for a little and then she will know how far his interest go.
As a female myself, if a certain guy peaked my interest and I wanted him to know, I would suck it up and tell him. Rejection is a b*tch, but at least I tried.
This is a rather interesting question that involves many variables such as, is he aware that you exist, is there a power differential involved etc.
It is commonly thought that guys approach females that they are interested in, but what you will find is that the majority of guys don't do this. The guys who do approach tend to be the ones who have their "game" well polish and tuned. Guys react to the verbal and non verbal messages you send them. And some are better at deciphering these messages than others.
So lets assume that this guy is aware of your existence, and that you probably pass each other with little more than a nod or a smile. In an instance such as this you would probably have to make the first move. I am assuming that you have been interested in him for some time but the opportunity to express such interest never arose. You will have to create such an opportunity.
If you want this guy to know that you are interested in him, you can use a rather simple approach. The male species are simple creatures. Next time you see him just smile and ask him one of the following, based on how familiar you are with each other. [Hi, how is your day going?; Ask him for directions to somewhere, then position yourself to run into him again and start off a conversation based on the directions he gave you and what followed after; Tease him that he just passed you, a damsel in distress, and never offered to help you (your books fell or something, use your imagination);] The objective is to strike up a conversation with him and get him chatting. Based on his response to you striking up a conversation you should be able to tell if he is interested in you.
If he is someone that you regularly chat and interact with, chances are he might not be that interested, or probably not sure how to read you. In this scenario you will have to be bold, ask him out. If you are not the bold type try dropping hints like "I would love to go watch this movie, but all my friends are busy this weekend and have no one to take me" remember to drop in the "sigh" after that comment.If that doesn't work, your guy might simply be not interested.
Good Luck
Teddy
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